Should I make my fiance take a fertility test?

If you want to end the relationship, then ask him. Even if he has fertility issues, you can still concieve and be happy! That is selfish and self centered.
That would be like him asking you to sign a contract not to get fat after you get married!

You are being paranoid! If you love him and are marrying him for the right reasons, his fertility should not matter! You can always adopt or get artificially inseminated if you want kids and he is infertile!

Relax and have sex… unless it has been over two years of trying with no results then the Dr’s will not test anyway…those tests are thousands of dollars

You should discuss it with him and if he doesn’t want to take one, you can’t force him.
If you don’t want to marry him because he won’t take one, maybe you should reconsider the whole marriage thing.
But before you worry about fertility and infertility, you should be in a 100% committed relationship, then you can have unprotected sex and hope for the best.
But if his infertility would keep you from marrying him, you shouldn’t be together at all.

I wouldn’t ask him. It really might offend him. Just out of curiosity if he wasn’t fertile would you still marry him?

Since you both want to have children after your marriage, I think it is in the way that you bring up the subject.

Make sure you mention it as a way for you to both be able to start trying to conceive as soon as you are married, as opposed to “making sure he’s not infertile.”

Are you saying if he can’t father children, you wouldn’t marry him??? Wow… I married my husband because I loved him and we did have some minor fertility issues that we handled together…. Oh, and just because you had an “incedent” doesn’t mean you are fertile myrtle now – there are plenty of women ttc baby #2 and having problems… Sooo, go ahead and ask him to test, but he may ask you for the ring back!

I think you are just paranoid. I am sure that he is judt fine in that department. There is a very low chance that his is in fact infertile. But even if he is there are other ways of having a baby beside adoption. But if you still arent sure, just ask him. You two are going to be spending the rest of your lives together. You should be as open as possible, because i am sure there are going to be much larger hurdles to cross.

Explain to him your concerns and how important it is for you to be able to have a baby. My concern is, what if God forbid something happened and he or you couldnt have a baby, would you still love him and want to be with him, no matter what, if not then you shouldnt be getting married without considering how strong your love is, PLUS I know of a few men who have been told they are infertile, go through the wife or gfriends whole pregnancy wondering if it were their baby only to find out the doctor was wrong & it was their baby. How would you feel if he took the test, found out bad news and years down the road (if you let him go) you see him & a woman with their baby….how important is he to you, I think its wonderful that you are so excited about having a baby! I have 6 girls & thank God for them everyday…I wish you all the best & God Bless! I am sure it will all be fine!

I think it’s a really bad idea. If you love him what difference does it make. You can adopt. If you are just marrying him to have babies then the marriage isn’t going to last and you should keep looking. If you ask him to do that it is like you are saying I only love you if you can produce a baby. What if asked you to take genetic tests to see if you will ever be overweight. What would you think of him then. Same principle. You are suppose to love each other through the good and the bad times.

If you love him it won’t matter, you can adopt.. so you’re saying all the sudden you’re not going to get married if he’s not fertile? That’s not cool. You never know.. i’ve been pregnant once before, and not my hubby and I have been trying for a whole year and we’re still not pregnant. now i have to have lap. surgery to unblock a tube. you never know, so don’t assume you’re good to go. You’re young whatever happens you can fix. He will be fine, it’s not cool to ask him that. He does have feelings ya know.

You can’t make your fiance do anything. You can ask but if he says no that’s it.

he is a guy… dont you think that guys take it a bit to on the personal level .. doint “it” in a cup?
well..honestly .. i think you should try to conceive first & God forbid if there is any complication then you should think about fertility tests etc etc.

its too early ..girl.. yes..you are being parannoid.

PS> are u a cancerain(zodiac?)

No it is not fair to make ur Fiance to take a fertility test …if u want him to take it …then u should take it too…it does not mean having some history makes u fertile now. after giving giving birth can turn infertility too…u are very immature and insensitive and selfish.

Do you want to marry your fiance because you love him or because you want to have babies? I think that’s the question you need to be asking yourself. And if I was your fiance I’d be wondering the same thing.

And since you had an “incident” before are you sure you can still have kids? Mistakes are made during “incidents” you know.

Would you decide not to marry him if you found out he couldn’t have children? There is always sperm donors, adoption etc…. I know its not the same but it can be just as fulfilling… Bottom line is that its a personal choice you have to make as to whether you want to spend the rest of your life with your fiance… for better and for worse… in my book that would include infertility. If you do then the test would be irrelevent and if not ….. maybe you shouldn’t be getting married in the first place.. Just my opinion I obviously know nothing about your specific relationship. GOOD LUCK!

I think you’re just being paranoid. You have no reason to think that he will have some fertility problems. Even if he happened to have some fertility issues you’d all have other options Fertility treatments, sperm donor, adoption etc. I wouldn’t worry about it till you’ve been actively trying to conceive for at least 12 to 16 months.